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By: TulipGirl » Blog Archive » Restoring Gently and Carrying Burden

TulipGirl » Blog Archive » Restoring Gently and Carrying Burden — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 19:22:42 +0000

[...] This was on my mind this week, after a conversation I had. . . I keep praying that the Lord will show me how to “restore gently” as the boys are getting older, as we are instroduced to new struggles. Originally posted May 2005. [...]

By: TulipGirl » Blog Archive » Ezzo Week(end): Teaching Toddlers

TulipGirl » Blog Archive » Ezzo Week(end): Teaching Toddlers — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 14:47:54 +0000

[...] Restoring Gently and Carrying Burdens: “What does “restoring gently” look like? Luther explains, “when they see that those persons are sorrowful for their offenses, they should begin to raise them up again, to comfort them, and to mitigate their faults as much as they can—yet through mercy only, which they must set against sin, lest those who have fallen are swallowed up with depression.” And “. . .gently, and not in the zeal of severe justice.”” [...]

By: Stephen

Stephen — Sun, 26 Jun 2005 12:21:41 +0000

Found the link you send me while looking through some old e-mails. Fascinating entry. Thanks for giving personal examples–that really helps us parent-types out. :)

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 04 Apr 2005 10:59:15 +0000

Your thoughts are so encouraging and helpful. I have three young children who at times are so irritable and ornery with one another that it’s hard to know who to handle all of the situations that arise. Hitting, teasing, fighting over toys….My husband travels frequently and your blog has been a great reminder to me of how important it is to mold them in Christ’s love just as a brother or sister in Christ. Nothing else a mother does is as important as that. Thanks!

By: Krista

Krista — Sat, 02 Apr 2005 17:48:13 +0000

This post is exceptional. You should try getting this published in some kind of Christian parenting magazine. Seriously.

By: Victoria

Victoria — Wed, 30 Mar 2005 19:33:53 +0000

Thank you for reminding us that God’s Word applies to our children too.

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 28 Mar 2005 09:58:56 +0000

Very nice post! Happy Easter.

By: ~*Christy

~*Christy — Sat, 26 Mar 2005 06:40:51 +0000

As usual, thank you for putting things down so well. I linked to this post. *smile*

By: Dogwood Blue

Dogwood Blue — Fri, 25 Mar 2005 06:34:27 +0000

I’m took me a few days to get to reading this post. I’m so glad I did read it. The analysis from Scripture was very insightful and the examples from your own life helped to clarify it’s application. This is one you should think about publishing somewhere. It is very well done.

By: Mrs darling

Mrs darling — Thu, 24 Mar 2005 23:37:29 +0000

I love your thoughts on this. My 8 year old needs prepared before people come too. Otherwise she gets so hyper. Thanks for a fresh new view of my kids and motherhood!

By: TulipGirl

TulipGirl — Thu, 24 Mar 2005 14:27:47 +0000

I really appreciate the feedback, and the thoughts y’all have shared. It’s been good for further reflection.

Reader,
I’m not ignoring you! Just been a bit crazy~offline the past few days. But I did write a whole post to you in my head as I was drifting to sleep last night. I’ll type it up, today hopefully. *Grin*

By: Missy

Missy — Thu, 24 Mar 2005 06:16:07 +0000

Great stuff.

By: Ann

Ann — Thu, 24 Mar 2005 03:46:09 +0000

Preach it from the mountain tops, sister! AMEN!
Who am I, chief among sinners, to arrogantly condemn my children? I am to GENTLY restore them–LEST I FALL INTO TEMPTATION (of pride, anger, self-righteousness)…I do not lord over my children..we are *fellow-sojourners* on this faith journey.

By: ~Leann

~Leann — Wed, 23 Mar 2005 22:27:03 +0000

I absolutely loved this blog!!! You have no idea how much it spoke to my heart today. Thank you for sharing this.

By: Brian G.

Brian G. — Wed, 23 Mar 2005 21:18:26 +0000

This is appropos of nothing; but I just wanted to say that me and Bach share the same birthday. Solomon Burke also turned 65 the same day that I turned 41!

By: bonnie

bonnie — Wed, 23 Mar 2005 08:45:29 +0000

Luther is wonderfully liberal with the Gospel! Thank you for the Galations link…most Lutheran churches these days have little to do with Luther’s teachings. Bach (born March 21, 1750) is rarely performed either. My family is listening to the St. Matthew Passion tonight. Blessed Lent!

P.S. Your blog is too edifying to refrain from reading!

By: Reader

Reader — Wed, 23 Mar 2005 02:51:42 +0000

I have been reading with interest your recent posts on Christian parenting. I’ve been challenged to examine my own parenting style. May the Lord continually refine me!
I would love to read any practical advice you have to share for gently parenting a TODDLER (My son is 2.5yo).
For example: “Johnny, please don’t sit on your (infant) sister’s back when she is trying to crawl. It makes her frustrated. Do you hear that she is starting to cry? (etc.)….”
Johnny almost immediately repeats behavior…and by the way, he fully comprehends the request I just made.
After Johnny directly disobeys my request in such a way, my current practice is to discipline him, usually with a spanking.
Can you provide to your readers some practical advice for parenting YOUNG children such as this. I appreciate all you have said so far…it just seems like the approach you are recommending is easier to “live out” with slightly older children.

By: Kim in ON

Kim in ON — Wed, 23 Mar 2005 00:04:19 +0000

Amen, amen, amen! What a great post!

I love your use of carrying burdens in the context of parenting. It adds such a loving dimension to what we teach our children.

Thanks for writing this.

By: martha

martha — Tue, 22 Mar 2005 18:57:34 +0000

i appreciate your comments re correcting gently and knowing each individual child…and helping carry their burdens. in our quest for truth, we often ignore this aspect of family (and church) life. so often, those who are kind and gentle are soft on truth and wink at sin. many of us who are strong on truth are too harsh…WAY too harsh, not only with our children and spouses, but with our brothers and sisters in Christ! Then we wonder why we can’t find a caring Body of believers. Hmmm!

you are right on sister. i’ve been observing over the years that our behavior in our 20′s and 30′s toward our children and spouses is sort of like putting money into a bank of love and good will (or withdrawing it if it is negative). Apart from unusual intervention b/f then, we will receive the dividends in our relationships with our children/spouses in our 50′s and 60′s and beyond. it is a version of the scripture that says “we reap what we sow.” certainly compassion and tenderness in dealing with sin vs. a harsh and self-righteous spirit will result in a better earthly AND heavenly reward for all concerned.

i speak as a wounded soul who never experienced that kind of love and care from my christian parents and very little from my christian community. i am not rare from my generation (almost 60). we wanted to do better for our children…and by God’s grace we did do better, but it was always an uphill battle and i see WAY more that could and should have been done. i found that one of the most difficult things about parenting was having to look at my woundedness and inadequacies. of course, that drew me to Christ but i didn’t come to see some of the practical benefits of that until more recently.

By: gid

gid — Tue, 22 Mar 2005 18:09:22 +0000

What a great post. Thank you!

By: Eva

Eva — Tue, 22 Mar 2005 18:03:21 +0000

Beautiful! Why do we (I!) think that the Bible does not have something in it to speak to every relationship in our lives? My husband and I recently returned from serving in Mexico and I too struggled with my children “measuring up”,as we traveled and stayed/lived in people’s homes. And the pressure was 99.9% of the time internal.Thank you for your honesty and sharing your desire to serve your children, not just as their mother but as their sister,too.

By: FLGrandma

FLGrandma — Tue, 22 Mar 2005 17:29:31 +0000

Good thoughts. It’s helpful too that you give specific examples of your youngsters’ behavior and how you deal with it.