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July 10, 2005

What I'm. . .

Drinking: Imperial Coconut Iced Tea
Reading: For Your Own Good
Wearing: A sarong, from my Mom
Listening: CD from Hymns for a Kid's Heart
Thinking: Choosing a major, when I return to college
Watching: Google Earth
Playing: Sharks & Minnows with the boys
Cooking: With Hubby's new wok


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What do you think of the book so far? I followed the link, and it looks intriguing.

--Renae, A Reader and Blog-follower from St. Louis

Posted by: Renae at July 11, 2005 01:24 PM

I too would like to hear what you think of the book.

And did you like the strawberry soup? :-)

Posted by: Carla at July 11, 2005 08:12 PM

About the book. . . Wow. . . Thought-provoking. It rang true in many areas, but as you can imagine, I had to filter it through what I see in the Bible and the world. (The author seems to have a bit of a grudge against religion, but still makes valid observations.)

I believe one can read her book critically, and come away with some good insights culturally and personally.

I'm not quite at the place where I want to type up my thoughts about the book, so I'll direct you to some others who have:

Camille writes:

"I had been avoiding Alice Miller’s For Your Own Good for months, skeptical about her thesis that poor parenting caused Nazi Germany. When I finally did read it, I was stymied. The “poisonous pedagogy” rampant in modern German child-rearing manuals was so eerily resonant in Ezzo. . . . She cites child-rearing texts from the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries and summarizes their ethic as follows: adults must master the child whose will must be broken; self-respect is harmful but self-loathing is desirable; gentleness is dangerous; and the artificially pleasing is better than the honestly displeasing. . . . To her, the most private crimes made the worst public sin possible and inevitable. . . . The German notions that “parents are always right” and “responding to a child’s needs is wrong” and “first-time obedience is expected” are jarringly familiar. . . . Miller convincingly connects this familiar “poisonous pedagogy” to the horror of the Holocaust and, thus, creates a irrepressible desire for some resolution. But her prescription is absent—a tragedy in itself. . . ."

I recommend reading the rest of what Camille wrote, which is in a paper on (M)Othering: Intersecting Scholarship, Faith, and Home.

Also, Carol has posted extensive quotes and thoughts from this book on her website.

Posted by: TulipGirl at July 11, 2005 10:39 PM

I'm rooting for philosophy, but then again, I always root for philosophy.

Posted by: Gideon Strauss at July 12, 2005 07:39 AM

I'm leaning towards communications. . . But. . . I've got my AA in PoliSci. I good pausing point. But I know that's not the direction I want to continue.

Posted by: TulipGirl at July 12, 2005 08:10 AM

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