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September 28, 2007

Grace and Two Year Olds

A discussion started here:

"I've read Kimmel. But how do you do that with a two-year-old?"

A friend of mine asked me the question. . . She read Kimmel's Grace-Based Parenting. Appreciated what he had to say! But then she wonders, "How does that look in the day-to-day life of parenting a toddler?"

So . . . how do you answer that question?

Your thoughts?

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It is refreshing to see you link to something that on parenting that talks about what you do believe in rather than what you do not believe in.

Posted by: Hank Osborne at September 30, 2007 04:46 PM

Hank, I'd invite you to look through the archives of Nurturing Children and Mommy-Inspiration Files for more of what we believe and practice.

Grace and peace,

Posted by: TulipGirl at September 30, 2007 04:49 PM

I have not seen your IP address in the editing history of Wikipedia on these subjects.

Posted by: Hank Osborne at October 1, 2007 01:58 AM

I remember when my firstborn was two, I was a little frustrated, too, with parenting books. I really had been hoping for magic answers, silver bullets, a formula--and I was not finding it in the book that came highly recommended to me, which at the time was How to Really Love Your Child.

Funny thing is that I re-read that book after that two-year-old was grown up and realized it was an extremely wise book and did basically summarize what I grew to believe "works" in parenting...beliefs that took shape for me over the years of parenting my children and helping others, too.

But that still doesn't help you in those days when you do have to do something. I really liked LauraK's practical ideas in the message board thread you linked to.

Posted by: Kathy at October 2, 2007 09:57 AM

For us - we have a close to 4 year old and deal with grace in two forms. There occasional times where we will sit him down to discuss his discipline and in turn give him the gospel and tell him about grace and how God's grace keeps us from punishment.

To compare it, he gets chocolate milk for consistently going on the potty. We ask him what grace is like - his response is 'it's like chocolate milk!' and how he might get it if he doesn't deserve it.

Both seemed to have worked well for him :).

Posted by: Pete at October 11, 2007 10:18 AM

I just finished a new book by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, The Parent You Want To Be. I highly recommend it. It reads like a how-to manual to accompany Dr. Kimmel's Grace-Based Parenting. The authors are Christian psychologists, and in their book they successfully filter the best of the secular literature (e.g., emotion coaching and active listening techniques) through a Christian grid. Additionally, the authors are parents of a preschooler and a first-grader, so the applications are geared towards younger children.

Posted by: Marilyn Johnson at October 15, 2007 03:09 PM