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Mommies, Babies, and Chemistry

Today I came across this facinating article about The Chemistry of Attachment, by Linda F. Palmer. My mother was asking me more about Reactive Attachment Disorder this week, and this article touches on the oxcytocin/cortisol impact on infant brain development. The wonderful way God has designed mothers and babies continually amazes me.

Here are some quotes from the article, of the creative chemicals that connect us.


Under the early influence of oxytocin, nerve junctions in certain areas of mother's brain actually undergo reorganization, thereby making her maternal behaviors "hard-wired."

Persistent regular body contact and other nurturing acts by parents produce a constant, elevated level of oxytocin in the infant, which in turn provides a valuable reduction in the infant's stress-hormone responses. . . the resulting high or low level of oxytocin will control the permanent organization of the stress-handling portion of the baby's brain-promoting lasting "securely attached" or "insecure" characteristics in the adolescent and adult.
When an infant does not receive regular oxytocin-producing responsive care, the resultant stress responses cause elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Chronic cortisol elevations in infants . . .are shown in biochemical studies to be associated with permanent brain changes that lead to elevated responses to stress throughout life,


Released in response to nearness and touch, vasopressin promotes bonding between the father and the mother, helps the father recognize and bond to his baby. . . It has gained a reputation as the "monogamy hormone."


. . .prolactin is released in response to suckling, promoting milk production as well as maternal behaviors. Prolactin relaxes mother. . . so she has no strong desire to hop up and do other things.


Babies need milk, and opioids are nature's reward to them for obtaining it. . . The first few episodes of sucking organize nerve pathways in the newborn's brain, conditioning her to continue this activity.

Prolonged elevation of prolactin in the attached parent stimulates the opioid system, heightening the rewards for intimate, loving family relationships. . .
Once a strong opioid bonding has occurred, separation can become emotionally upsetting, and in the infant possibly even physically uncomfortable when opioid levels decrease in the brain, much like the withdrawal symptoms from cocaine or heroin. When opioid levels become low, one might feel like going home to hold the baby or like crying for a parent's warm embrace. . .


Norepinephrine helps organize the infant's stress control system


Newborns are much more sensitive to pheromones than adults. . . . Through these, baby most likely learns how to perceive the level of stress in the caretakers around her, such as when mother is experiencing fear or joy. . . .body odors and pheromones can only be sensed when people are physically very near each other.


January 31, 2004  |  Comments (4)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



A New Baby!

Congratulations to Daniel and Amy!
Happy Birthday, Isaac Daniel!


January 31, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Serving in Bam

I just read a moving letter about a short-term medical team that spent 13 days in Bam, Iran. Because the Islamic government restricts evangelism, the team worked at showing mercy and "preaching the Gospel" without words.

". . .one of my responsibilities was to counsel people that were going through severe grief from their loss of family members. And as a Christian, I would normally find out what had transpired, share the gospel where appropriate, read a portion of Scripture and pray with the family member. But most of those resources were not available options. However, God provided other resources as I was soon to find out. One of the first persons that I was asked to meet with was a woman who had lost 9 of her 12 children in the quake, and another 150 extended family members. What do I do -- what do I say? I learned from one of our translators that the book of Job was included in the Koran and was therefore able to draw on insights from Job and his sorrows as a source of comfort. . ."

Also, this week Hubby encouraged me to sign a petition that calls international bodies to hold the Iranian government accountable both for its ongoing human rights atrocities, and its criminal negligence with the Bam earthquake.

And, for staying up-to-date on what is going on in Iran, I recommend visiting Iran News Filter, Free Persia and Blog Iran.


January 31, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



My Boys


J7, T6, R4, and C3
May 2003


January 30, 2004  |  Comments (8)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



*mush, mush*

I love my hubby. And I guess it shows. . .

Evangelical Outpost said we're one of his Favorite Husband and Wife Blogs, along with Jeremy and Samantha.


January 30, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Must Visit Website

If you haven't yet, you simply must visit Monergism.Com, for great theology and Bible study resources.


January 29, 2004  |  Comments (11)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Abortion Killed Dean's Campaign?

James Taranto of the Opinion Journal theorizes that Dean has fared poorly in the Iowa and New Hampshire primaries because of Roe v. Wade. Dean's strongest support is among 18-to-29-year-olds. Not only did this demographic fail to show up at the polls, about one-third failed to show up at birth.

Read the rest of the story here.


January 28, 2004  |  Comments (4)  |  TrackBack (3)  |  Permalink



Prayers of Children

This afternoon, T6 was looking through the book, You Can Change the World--it's the kids version of Operation World.

He said, "Mom, I think there are some countries missing. Iraq isn't in here--and we need to pray for Iraq."

If you were here now you would almost feel Iraq bleeding from its wounds. You would almost see the palm trees weeping and shedding tears. You would almost hear the two rivers murmuring and moaning in pain. You would almost hear Baghdad wailing and crying for help. You would smell the tension in the air which even rain is unable to wash away. You would sense the years of deprivation and negligence in its soil. Who is trying to steal the smile from its weary face? Who is going to heal Iraq? Who is going to help it stand on its feet? And is this going to be the end to all its sorrows or is there more? from Healing Iraq

(via Marsupial Mom)


January 28, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Life in Kyiv

So much of life here is different from anywhere I grew up. One of my purposes in starting to blog was to have a place where I have all the little stories about life collected in one place, for later years and especially for the boys.

Today I came across Notes from Kiev, which are the collected impressions of a former Peace Corps worker. His blog tends to focus on anecdotal economic indicators, and reflects some of the thoughts I've had.

I never read the Business section of the newspaper when we lived in the States, but it is the first section I turn to in the English-language Kyiv Post.


January 28, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



The Truth Behind LOTR

We've all heard discussions about JRR Tolkien's intent in writing Lord of the Rings, and we've all heard he never meant to have it allegorized.

But now, the truth comes out. . . Matthew Baldwin has deconstructed LOTR and has discovered it's all about pregnancy. For instance:

But only one person is the appointed bearer. And that poor sap has to carry the burden the entire way, a burden that just gets heavier and heavier as the weeks wear on. The bearer gets increasingly tired and cranky as they approach their destination -- and who can blame them? Their good-for-nothing companion doesn't do anything useful, except flit about and say things like "jeeze, I wish I could carry the burden for a while!" and occasionally fight off an enormous spider and/or fetch chocolate ice cream. . . .

When people see the One Ring they feel an almost irresistible urge to reach out and grab it; likewise, strangers in the supermarket are seemingly compelled to reach out and touch The Queen's belly.

(Via MamaMusings)


January 27, 2004  |  Comments (5)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Different But Equal

I just got word that Patty McLaughlin's new book has been released, Different But Equal : Adoption Education and Preparation Manual.

We were blessed to know the McLaughlin family when we lived in Florida, and were treated to some of the Chinese cooking they brought home with them, along with their daughters.

If you are considering adoption, I encourage you to order this manual. Patty has been a great encourager to me, both when we lived nearby and even now through e-mail. I'm sure you will be blessed by the information she has gathered on preparing for adoption.

(Oh, and it is her oldest son who is responsible for the Courtship Pick-Up Lines Hubby posted. . .)


January 26, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink




This morning, Hubby and the boys were watching Homestar Runner clips (thanks to Tim for hooking us on Homestar Runner, months ago. . .)

They noticed a new link. . . Hmmm. . . A Trogdor the Burninator game!

They've been playing it this morning and singing Trogdor the Burninator, burninating the peasants!



January 26, 2004  |  Comments (4)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Link update

Speaking of Tim. . .

Please update your links and bookmarks to the new-and-improved TimBerglund.Com. Glad to see you settling in at your new URL, Tim.


January 26, 2004  |  Comments (1)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Parents, Teens, and Sex

Ask parents, "Who most influences your teen's sexual decisions?" and they say their kids' friends or the media.

Ask teens who's most influential and their No. 1 answer is:
"My parents."

Teenagers "may fuss or stare out the window when you discuss sex, but even the poorest kids in the most chaotic environment said their parents are very influential," Brown says.

Ironically, "the more parents talk about sexual health, the less sex kids have," Juzang adds.

From Donna Britt's "Stats on Teens Don't Tell the Whole Story"
Also check out TRW's and LaShawn Barber's posts on Sex Ed


January 24, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Loving Families and Reactive Attachment Disorder

What is RAD?

RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) is a psychological and neurological. . . disorder that occurs during the first two years of life when a child does not attach and bond properly to their primary caregiver. Fundamental processes do not occur resulting in on-going rage, fear of attaching to anyone, lack of trust, an unusual effort to control everything in their lives, a lack of self worth, and an inability to fully comprehend cause and effect.

Today I heard from a friend whose son has RAD. Her son and J7, my oldest son, are roughly the same age. We both used Gary Ezzo's "Preparation for Parenting" materials, as they were written and intended. We both love our children dearly and are devoted to them.

J7 was diagnosed with Failure to Thrive at six months old. J7 is still a little small for his age, but well within "average" and quite normal considering our family genetics. It took several years before my friend had an accurate diagnosis for her son's RAD. She shares about the evaluations her son went through, and how it linked back directly to her well-intentioned use of Ezzo's materials.

During these interviews and evaluations, they began to see what I had suspected all along. Finally, they asked me if his infancy might have been traumatic in any fashion, medically, emotionally or if he'd suffered abuse.

I froze. I had already been learning about the problems in the Ezzo materials. I had already done enough of my own research to know that extensive use of "crying it out" could cause major damage. And I began to talk and talk and cry and told about how we had implemented Ezzo methods with him.

The first question to me, after talking about the program was "do you think that during the times he was left to cry, that at any point he may have felt abandoned or hopeless?" I said "of course, I never thought it could hurt a baby, but now that I'm learning more, I know it can and I know he must have felt terribly afraid and alone."

My friend has worked hard at re-forming bonds with her son, and he has had a period of gains. But recently he has had some severe setbacks, and my friend is having struggles that no mama should have to go through with a child who is so dearly loved.

Reality is, the medical and developmental information in Gary Ezzo's parenting materials is severely flawed. His theories spring from personal opinion, not the Bible and definitely not medical fact. When parents make decisions based on inaccurate medical information, they are setting themselves up for medical problems.

Even when those choices are bathed in parental love and good intentions.


January 24, 2004  |  Comments (11)  |  TrackBack (1)  |  Permalink



Bloggy Tools

EO shares the happy news--the new and improved Beta Technorati is up and running!

Also, after being down for ages, Blog Tree is back up and stable.


January 23, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Memories of Church

Earliest Memory. I have two: wailing and clinging to my mother at nursery school (which was located in our Congregational church) and sitting on my maternal grandmother's lap, reading cloth Bible books. -- the 100th Sheep

Oh, what a poignant illustration of why we need to think through family worship and how to include our children in corporate worship.


January 23, 2004  |  Comments (1)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Alert: Contagious Virus

We are spreading a virus from my husband's work address. If you received a Christmas e-mail from us last month, you may have received an infected e-mail from us this week. I'm sorry!

We rec'd and opened the virus THREE TIMES because it appeared to be a legit e-mail attachment from someone we knew. *groan*

As soon as we realized what was going on, we deleted our address book completely (along with the virus.) We're taking further steps to irradicate it.

We haven't had any computer or system problems other than passing it along.

The most common incarnation is an e-mail from "maureen k" with the subject "Peter Pan" and the attachment daily03.pdf.pif . Another variation has a subject line of "Security Alert" or "Contact List." The attachment may be named Board_Meeting2004.doc.scr .

This virus is marked by the suffix .pif or .scr .

I'm so sorry.

Update:The virus has been identified as W32.Bugbear.B@mm . According to the computer guy at the office, It can be removed by following these instructions.


January 23, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



31 Years of Roe

In Memorial: The Blackmun Wall

Women killed by legal abortion.


January 22, 2004  |  Comments (11)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Superfluparents in the Church

While this troublesome trend is apparent in the culture at large, it is even more disturbing when it makes headway in the Church. Superfluparents is how Joanne diagnoses the problem she sees in many churches, including her own.

The condition is characterized by a gradual decline in parental authority, a deterioration of the family unit as socialization vehicle, the slow give away of each aspect of the child's life to someone/someplace else. Advanced stages of the disease are shown by children who care more about peers than parents, parents whose "dealing with children" muscles have atrophied due to lack of use. . .

God has called us to worship corporately, as families. He has made our children part of His Covenant. Why does it seem the Church so often rushes to exclude them from worship, in the guise of "ministering" to these little ones?

Beal Heights PCA's Infants and Children and the Word of God offers a positive approach that helps families worship together, meets the needs and noises of little ones, and provides for guests.

And for the practical side of corporate worship with very small children, Jeri has some great ideas.

Update: Marsupial Mom adds to this discussion.


January 21, 2004  |  Comments (9)  |  TrackBack (2)  |  Permalink



Google Fun

I find it fun to come across new Google toys.

My favorite is the define: search. Simply type the bothersome word after define: with no space. Up pops a list of definitions!

Type in a UPS/FedEx tracking number, and the package status comes up. Type in a phone number, and the related address comes up. And some kind of math nut must have programmed the Google Calculator.

And when Google can't find it. . . UnGoogle!


January 21, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



State of the Union

Anyone know where to watch/listen to the State of the Union address tonight online, in real time?

I assume by tomorrow I'll be able to watch the webcast at the White House website. The current info there is from last year.


January 20, 2004  |  Comments (7)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Charles Hodge and Parenting

The other night I was skimming Charles Hodge's commentary on Romans and was just struck by how God relates to us as His children, and how I can follow that example with my children.

This is from the Crossway Books Classic Commentaries, page 189, commenting on Romans 6: 12-23:

"As no man is free from sin, as no man can perfectly keep the commandments of God, every man who rests on his personal conformity to the law as the basis of his acceptance with God must be condemned. We are not under the law in this sense, but under grace--that is, a system of free justification. We are justified by grace, without works.

We are not under a legal dispensation, requiring personal conformity to the law and entire freedom from sin, past and present, as the condition of our acceptance; but we are under a gracious dispensation, according to which God dispenses pardon freely and accepts the sinner as a sinner, for Christs's sake, without works or merit of his own. Whoever is under the law, in the sense just explained, is not only condemned, but he is bound by a legal or slavish spirit. What he does, he does as a slave, to escape punishment. But he who is under grace, who is freely accepted by God and restored to his favor, is a child of God living under his Spirit. The principle of obeying him is love and not fear.

Here, as everywhere else in the Bible, it is assumed that the favor of God is in our life. We must be reconciled to Him before we can be holy: we must feel that He loves us before we can love Him."

Reflections related to Parenting

"God. . .accepts the sinner as a sinner"
I know this to be true with God accepting me, and now I want to really just ACCEPT my children as who they are. I want to provide a "safe place to fall" for my kids, where they know they are accepted as they are, even when they sin. I know my parents have lived that out towards my siblings and me.

"What he does, he does as a slave, to escape punishment."
I don't want my children to be doing things out of fear, simply to escape punishment.

"But he who is under grace, who is freeely accepted by God and restored to his favor, is a child of God living under his Spirit."
This is the part of the passage that first drew my attention to asking how I can relate this to me and my children, copying God as my Father.

"The principle of obeying him is love and not fear."
Again, I don't want it to be fear of me or fear of punishment that compels my children to obedience. But of love. Just as, truly, my obedience (imperfect though it may be) to God is out of a desire to please Him and out of love.

"we must feel that He loves us before we can love Him."
I read a survey once that said something like 90% of kids knew their parents loved them, but only 30% FELT that their parents loved them. I want to really nurture my children, and have them FEEL loved by me and my husband.

Update: Carol adds some of her thoughts on this subject.


January 20, 2004  |  Comments (5)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Romans 6:12-23

This is the passage that provoked my thoughts on parenting when reading Charles Hodge's commentary on Romans.

"Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, and do not go on presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.

What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? May it never be! Do you not know that when you present yourselves to someone as slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness?

But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed, and having been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. I am speaking in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh.

For just as you presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in further lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in sanctification. For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness.

Therefore what benefit were you then deriving from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the outcome of those things is death. But now having been freed from sin and enslaved to God, you derive your benefit, resulting in sanctification, and the outcome, eternal life. For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Romans 6:12-23 NASB


January 20, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Civil Rights and Abortion

Coinciding this week are Sanctityof Human Life Sunday and Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. MLK's niece, Dr. Alveda King, makes connections between the issues that are remembered this week.

Parents making a decision to abort - because sometimes both are involved - are aborting a slave, in that the baby has no say so over whether it will live or not live. Likewise, the baby has no choice over its nourishment. The baby has no choice over where it can go or what it can do. It does what the parent says it will do. The baby is totally dependent on the parent.

During the 1970's, right after Roe v Wade, I aborted a child. This was before I became a born again Christian in 1983. For almost 20 years I lived in agony. Was it a boy, or was it a girl? Did the abortion hurt the baby, cause it great pain?

Thank God I didn't abort my other children. I made a decision for six children who are alive, and tragically I made the decision against one. At the time, I was not aware of what I was doing. There were no sonograms back then. If I had seen one, I don't think I could have done it. Now, today, it is only through the salvation of Jesus Christ that I realize I am forgiven for the act against that baby?s life, and I will see my child again in heaven.

Alveda King will be receiving a lifetime pro-life achievement award this week and be speaking at a Silent No More rally.

Thanks to Emily for pointing out this interview.


January 19, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (2)  |  Permalink



Pan is a tan-man-ram.

At the beginning of our school year, I asked each of the boys what they wanted to learn about. T6 mournfully said, "I want you to teach me to read, but I don't think I'll ever learn."

He's known his letter sounds for a while, and can sound out short words. But the "reading" just didn't click.

Today he took a long nap, and so was wide awake when the rest of the boys were in bed. I snuggled him on my lap and got out the first reader from the Veritas Press Phonics Museum.

He was hesitant, but started sounding out the title. "P-aaaaa-nnn. Pan. Aaaaaannnnd. And. The. Mmmmmaaaaaad. Mmmmmmmaaaaaannnn. Pan and the Mad Man!"

He read all the way through the "short a" reader. Halfway through, he jumped up and ran out of the room, "Daddy! Daddy! I'm really reading!"


January 19, 2004  |  Comments (5)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Prayer for Teachableness

O God, who has thought us worthy of Thy blessing,
that Thy Word daily sounds in our ears,
let it not find stony hearts and iron minds,
but so let us submit ourselves to Thee
with the humility that becomes us,
that we may truly feel Thee to be our Father;
and being confirmed in the hope of our adoption,
so long as Thou continuest to speak to us,
may at length enjoy not Thy voice alone,
but even the sight of Thy glory in that heavenly kingdom,
which Thine only Son has purchased for us by His blood.

-- John Calvin


January 18, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



First Corinthians 12?

Which Part Of The Body Are You?

Congratulations! You are the belly button. You easily become the center of attention while you are young but as you mature you fade into the background.

Now that you know your place in the body: go and serve!


January 17, 2004  |  Comments (6)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Ronia, the Robber's Daughter

The fact was that Lovis liked to sing while she was having her baby. It made things easier, she insisted, and the baby would probably be all the jollier if it arrived on earth to the sound of a song.

When Hubby reported his book finds this week, he neglected to mention the treasure I came across. Years ago, my friend Rachel told me how much her family liked Astrid Lindgren's Ronia, the Robber's Daughter.

I wasn't prepared, though, for how the opening paragraphs capture the sheer joy and amazement that accompany the birth of a child.

"I've got a child! Do you hear me -- I've got a child!" "What sort of child is it?" asked Noddle-Pete over in his corner. "A robber's daughter, joy and gladness!" shouted Matt. "A robber's daugther -- here she comes!"

January 17, 2004  |  Comments (6)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Tech Question

My archive links are working yet--and the problem is because they read something like this:

when they need to read this:

I can change them manually after they are posted, but how do I get them to post in the right place to begin with? Do I need to change my file structure or MT or what? Thanks.


January 17, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Click to Give
There is often an unspoken assumption that a college student or working woman when faced with a crisis pregnancy can look after her own needs. Yet, bound by societal conventions and high expectations, these are often the women who find it most difficult to ask for help. They are women whose family members may be least likely to accept an unplanned pregnancy and whose educational or career plans will seem most incompatible with a crisis pregnancy. These are the women who most often describe themselves as having only one desperate choice. --from The Nurturing Network mission statement

I've been aware of The Nurturing Network for over a decade, and appreciate the unique ways they seek to help pregnant women. Click to give at


January 16, 2004  |  Comments (3)  |  TrackBack (1)  |  Permalink



Simple Celebrity

Check out the February issue of RealSimple magazine.

My friend Ellen is featured in it in the Portrait of a Marriage article. Not only is she a great wife, but she's a fabulous friend. She's sent me homeschooling magazines, books for the kids, and so much encouragement since we moved overseas.


January 15, 2004  |  Comments (18)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



I'm not a tech geek

That's part of the delay in getting this up and going--figuring out how to install MT and CSS. And also, I wanted it to look just right before going public. Obviously, I've given up on that and will deal with the generic template for now.I have an idea of how to build my new website through MT, not just blog. I've got the concepts floating around, but sheesh it's hard to get the 'puter to do just what I want it to do!

I've got to give kudos to HM, though, for their wonderful help, especially Stacy. I'm probably the type of customer that has tech support downing the tylenol.
Here are the links that babystepped me through installing movabletype:
Hosting Matters' MT Instructions
Tokyo Shoes


January 15, 2004  |  Comments (3)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Breastfeeding and Meds

Dr. Thomas Hale is the expert on the impact of medications on breastfeeding.

Some mothers are fearful that any prescription medication they need will harm their baby, and so do not even consider breastfeeding. Thankfully, more research is being done in breastfeeding pharmocology, and mothers don't have to make fear-based decisions.

I recommend all pregnant or nursing mothers read how drugs enter milk.

For research on specific drugs, Dr. Hale's forums are open for browsing. Health professionals may register and ask questions.


January 15, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Hear me Roar!

Wow, there is SUCH a sense of accomplishment when I finally figure something out. Especially in areas in which I feel inadequate. Like tech stuff. (My problem while getting MT loaded? HM uses Linux which is case sensitive, and I had just two little letters not capitalized.)

Years ago, we lived in the middle of nowhere and ended up needing to install a phone line, and run it to our little house. John was working crazy hours, and so I attempted the confusing telephone wiring work. It's amazing what can be done with a book from the library and trial and error.

Update: Hmmm. . . Still getting error messages.


January 13, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



The Family that Writes Together

Today I visited the website of the Girlhood Home Companion, only to discover the Novaks are channeling their energies in a new direction, The Gift of Family Writing.

I've known Jill Novak since I was in high school and her children were very small. She's an amazing woman, who is full of encouragement and grace.

This Saturday, January 17th, is a Gift of Family Writing Workshop in Elgin, Illinois. I'd love to go--and if anyone is in the Chicago/Milwaukee area, I encourage you to check it out.


January 10, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Ezzo in Russian

I'm feeling very grumpy. I'd looked online and in bookstores here to see whether Gary Ezzo's parenting materials had been translated into Russian--and thankfully hadn't found any.

Until today.

One mom who is familiar with both the mother culture of Russia and the Ezzo materials has told me she is surprised that they have caught on at all. The Ezzo materials very much go against the way most Russian mothers think about their babies and families.

It makes me sad that some people embrace grace when it comes from God the Father, but then advocate raising children devoid of that same grace.

Update March 2004: Babywise is now being published in Russian, under the name "How to Teach A Baby to Sleep Through the Night." Bad News. Here's the advertising blurb, po-russki:

Как научить младенца спать всю ночь? Именно так и называется книга Гарри Эззо и Роберта Букнама, изданная новосибирским издательством Посох. Эта книга из серии Тихая ночь посвящена воспитанию детей первого года жизни.
Каких только методик по воспитанию детей не существует!


January 09, 2004  |  Comments (8)  |  TrackBack (1)  |  Permalink



Many Happy Returns!

Happy Birthday to my sister in Arizona!


January 07, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Come, Thou Fount of Ev'ry Blessing

Come, thou Fount of ev'ry blessing,

Tune my heart to sing thy grace;

Streams of mercy, never ceasing,

Call for songs of loudest praise,

Teach me some melodious sonnet,

Sung by flaming tongues above;

Praise the mount! I'm fixed upon it,

Mount of God's unchanging love.

Here I raise my Ebenezer;
Hither by thy help I'm come;
And I hope, by thy good pleasure,
Safely to arrive at home.
Jesus sought me when a stranger,
Wand'ring from the fold of God:
He, to rescue me from danger,
Interposed his precious blood.

O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I'm constrained to be;
Let that grace now, like a fetter,
Bind my wand'ring heart to thee.
Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,
Prone to leave the God I love;
Here's my heart, O take and seal it,
Seal it for thy courts above.


January 03, 2004  |  Comments (0)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



Oklahoma Lactivism

Kudos to Rep. John Carey, who is working on pro-breastfeeding legislation that will exclude breast-feeding women from public indecency laws and exempt from jury duty breast-feeding mothers and moms who may have a difficult time finding childcare.


January 02, 2004  |  Comments (2)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



I just couldn't resist. . .

I finally succumbed to the siren's song of blogging. As much as pentamom inspires me, I just don't have the moral fortitude she has, and yielded to this temptation.

But I'm glad. For ages, I've wanted to update the information and look of my old website, Me and My Boys. I even began an overhaul and started studying CSS to try to incorporate. Pure torture.

While watching Hubby work with Movable Type, I was convinced that I could redo my whole site using MT and CSS in a way that would allow me to keep the information current and be a good framework for changes in the future.

Also, I've typed e-mails and posts on forums of the bits and pieces of our life and our boys--and rarely rememebered to save them somewhere I could go back and read them. Watching Carol journal and share pictures convinced me that blogging will be a good tool for saving the memories of my boys growing up and our adventures in Kyiv.

I've had so much encouragement from online friends to blog! Thank you!


January 01, 2004  |  Comments (7)  |  TrackBack (0)  |  Permalink



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